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I thought I would share how we met 5 years ago to give you some background on everything. I had just moved back to Arkansas from living in New York. Came back to my family. I went to church with my mom and stepdad at that time I was still married to my now ex husband but it was at a rocky point where I was contemplating leaving him.

Novermber 2002 is when I met her. I talked to her about the situation and shared with her about all this. she told me to leave him. Not to hang on to someone who would mistreat you or your child. That I can make it as a single mom. So I took and started the process rolling. It was a long dragged out process and it didn't get final until Feb 2003.

We became friends. We were the only single moms with little kids. The other moms had teenagers. So we just befriended each other. I met her when she was pregnant with her now 4 year old son. We shared some stories back and forth. We found we had some similarties with each other. We both struggled with low self esteem engrained in our childhood by negative fathers. We also went for the bad guys because we felt we didn't deserve any better. these guys were really abusive and mistreated us gals. Our self image was so low we felt these were the only guys we would be dealt with.

I remember one time when a guy walked up to us and told my friend she looked like Sandra Bullock. She laughed and said I get that a lot. Anytime there is a movie with this actress in it it is very hard to watch because she resembles my friend a lot. I really miss her.

I've had people say get over it! Unless you experince a loved one of yours be it a child, a family member or a close friend going missing you really don't know what they go through. Someone from church told me 1 week after my friend disappeared to get it over already. I told them when you have a friend or a family member of yours going missing then come and talk to me about getting over it? let me know if its that easy for you?

I know their are other people out there who are friends and family members of missing adults and children. They need a place to share stories with those who have been there. offer support and encouragement and talk with those who understand where they are coming from. So many cases get dead like my friend 's case who has been missing for 1 year and 1 month (almost 2 months Aug 1st)

I watched the news on my birthday of 2007. When the broadcast came on about a local woman going missing. Then when I heard it was my friend I screamed and shock. I had just seen her March of 2007 when I went to visit the church. my last words were see you real soon. Then a few months later she was gone. I don't know what shocked me more the church we attended together knowing we were close friends and didnt' even bother to tell me when they learned this on day 1 or the fact I had to hear this on the local news station to find out.

I know my friend would want me to start a place to help others who are expericing this tragedy and raise awareness. to work together all we can not to allow the cases to get dead and others like the family members and friends of the victim to be left hanging. They are to busy to investigate and take the cases seriously. these should be ongoing investiagations. not dead ones within a few months. Something has got to be done. perhaps as I brainstorm and take steps little by little to start this maybe it will help others in this situation and raise awareness on how serious these tragedies are. make the media and the investigators stop treating it lightly like just another case 227 on the calender. As real people with real lives, friends, feelings and families of their own. Teach them to look at them as a person not as a number or as another statistic.