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So this blog is about me in a way. It involves my wonderful two year old son (soon to be that is) So now that he has almost a full mouth of teeth, he has decided to use them to bite back at those who bit him...hmmm (not sure where he got this idea from) And so now my husband and I get these wonderful love notes from his instructors and a pamphlet on how to put a stop to biting.
What is he six? I mean, he's not even mature enough to crap in a potty, how the hell am I supposed to sit down with him and hold a 'how not to bite' discussion? Yes I know there are ways to talk to him about it but I mean jeeze people give me a break.
Sometimes I question the expertise of these instructors. I mean really (did they really raise their own children or are they considering those in the classroom) LOL. I sometimes feel that they kind of set unrealistic goals for those kids.
Anyways, so here is what we decided to do. I went and sat with his pediatrician and she gave me a few pointers.
1. Address the biting on the spot (that means you too, instructors), do not wait till you get in the car or home to tell him that biting is not nice (oOops)
2. Give him a time out if he bites 'tell him no and then sit him down for a minute tops' (You hear that Instructors, I give you permission) I mean, it's not like I can do it; I am at work when it happens!
3. Make sure the people whom he is surrounded by are observing him- maybe there is someone who is picking on him (are you serious? yea two-year old bullies, ha)and or maybe something else has happened, like a new tooth growing in (oh yea we've got plenty of those, ya think), new room (come to think of it, he was just promoted to the 2-3 year old room) and lastly, check out the lead instructor, maybe he is not completely fond of her (he does do one of those 'run for your life, she is coming things' when he sees her)
So basically, biting is normal to a certain degree (depends on who you talk to, we've come to realize)
Later!
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Login or register to post a commentPerfectly normal
Biting is a perfectly normal behavior at that age, especially for boys (no offense to boys, it's just that language comes easier to girls statistically speaking!). The reason children at that age bite is because they do not have the language or impulse control to say "Hey! Don't take that toy from me!", or "I don't like it when you.....(fill in the blanks).
The best way to handle the biting is to address it immediately. Right then and right away! I wouldn't even go so far as to place a two year old in time out. Just take the little ones hand in your hand, look them in the eye (both with the purpose to engage them and to be sure they are listening) and say, NO. WE DO NOT BITE. Then (and equally important) the instructor must SHOW the child the better choice than biting. "Next time you want to play with the purple play-do you need to use your words." After those two steps are done and the tears have slowed (from both biter and bitee), drop it. Re-engage them in play and within a minute all will be forgotten.
Good luck to you and know that this stage will pass! (My now 10 year old was a biter....big time! )
And remember, you are a good mom that is out there in the workforce to provide a wonderful life to him.
Sara
www.createplaylearn.com
Thank you, I will heed your
Thank you, I will heed your advice! Have a great rest of the day!