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I turned 30 this year, and I don't know if there was some sort of subconscious rite of passage that occurred (I never got the Evite), but I have had such a renaissance of personal evolution since that moment.
I've felt this natural confidence emerge that isn't rooted in any particular role I play or thing I achieve. Which is a substantial transition for me. I was accustomed to my value stemming from my bank balance, music I had written, praise of my children, etc. Of course these things are still important to me, but they aren't so intrinsically linked to how I perceive my worth as a woman. It's as if the energy that is my true essence is finally ok with who it sees in the mirror.
Here I was thinking that 30 would be slightly devastating, that I'd lose some mojo in a poof of purple glitter, but instead I feel as if I have entered into this empowerment phase of my life where I can just be the real, unencumbered me and go after my goals.
It's like a lightbulb was finally screwed in, and when the room lit up, there was a huge sign on the wall that said: "Summer! Quit being an idiot!" And I said: "OK!"
Has anyone else ever experienced this kind of internal shift with a birthday or something of that sort? Just curious...
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Login or register to post a commentMy 40th was like that. I
My 40th was like that. I had a very quiet day my husband basically ignored it thinking I was going to be emo which made me more emo. The restaurant we went to with my Son, husband, and a younger couple was the site of a HUGE 40th birthday celebration of 25 people right next to me. I ended up leaving the table and crying on the phone to my girlfriend back in NY.(I currently live in MI) She didn't pickup so I left her a sobby message pulled myself together and finished dinner. My daughter had a marching band event so after dinner I went to pick her up and one of the boys said to me "whoa, who are you?" I said. Caitlin's mom. "Wow,you don't look like a mom!" That boy does not even know what a boost he gave me. I suddenly realized I was fabulous at 40! Then the next day my GF called to say stop crying 40 is better than 30. You just don't give a s--t what people think. It is great! And you know what?It is great! I think woman are so much better with age. Once you are in control of you and comfortable in your skin, Watch out world.
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That is so great to hear! I agree as well, I think that the more comfortable we get in our skin, the more beautiful and amazing we become because our inner energy can just glow through without all the filters we place on ourselves when we're young and insecure.
Summer Brighton
The Visionnaire Companies
Changing Decades
I love this particular blog. I remember turning 30 and wondering what happened to my 20's! Now I am rounding the corner to 40 (May, 2009) and I thought I would start panicking, but so far I am doing fine! It seems, like one of the other women said, that I still seem to present as younger , and perhaps attractive! I had some lady (in her 70 or 80's) stop me in the market last week to tell me I have fabulous legs. It was an odd moment, but wonderful. Plus I get carded about 50% of the time when I buy wine at the store, and I figure "that rocks" because I generally don't have make up on or have myself totally put together!
More important then appearances, I feel very confident, less irritated by the little BS that incapsulates my day to day life, and I tend to trust my instincts in ways I never did before.
Lastly, I have to admit...I get a little depressed when I am singing and groovin' to a song on the radio and then the announcer comes on and says "Thanks for listening to the oldies channel!" LOL Oh well!
Sara
www.createplaylearn.com
Walk Like An Egyptian
HAHAHAHA I have had that same moment!!!
Summer Brighton
The Visionnaire Companies
something clicked at 30
turning 30 was very EMPOWERING!! i began being true to myself, and i started with telling my husband and father of my 3 children that i was not in love with him and never have been in love with him. needless to say, he was appalled
whatever! that was the beginning of many true-to-myself challenges, and although bittersweet, sooooo worth it and became easier with the passing years! now at 45, i can't imagine not being true to Cleo--even when it hurts.
misscleo
So true!
This is TERRIFIC! I completly agree with the shift, I found that myself. I felt like when I turned 30 I could step back and say "ahhhh". I am comfortable in my own skin and am not trying to be everything to everybody. I shout from the mountain tops now... (think of this in a shouting voice)
I am Melissa, I am 31, and about 30 lbs overweight, I love my husband and kids, I sometimes feel insecure, I know I am a good person,I know that I am smart and beautiful, I know that the good outweighs the bad always, I know that I will sufer tremendous loss and gain more good in my life than bad, and I know how to embrace my "sisters" and not compare myself to them in the restaurant and bar bathrooms!!!! I LOVE MYSELF!!!!!!!
Melissa Casserly
Director
JMC Wealth Management & The Emotion Behind Money
melissa@jmcwealth.com
312-275-1900 Phone
That was spectacular, I
That was spectacular, I think I'm going to write that one down! I'm also going to check out your website, what you do sounds very intriguing.
Summer Brighton
The Visionnaire Companies
I LOVE all the commentary here
All of these comments are so refreshing because I can relate to every single one - especially 80's music being called "old school" on the radio. When did that happen? LOL! I turned 39 this year and it reminds me of 29, because both are turning out to be my "click" years.I find myself taking inventory of my life and thinking about whether or not I'm where I really want to be/thought I'd be at this stage of life. After 30, I've felt incredibly more secure ("comfortable in my own skin") year after year. I eventually discovered that if I'm proud of myself, grateful for what I have, and confident I'm living a positive/good life, then who cares what others think or expect of me.I have been selling Medicare plans for the past 4 years, and I work a lot with people 65+, so it has shown me the better a person lives life in their younger years, the better life will be in the later years; we can learn a lot from our elders - that's for sure. Quality of life and mortality have become more prevelant thoughts for me, especially because I put on 40 lbs. in the past 3 years - my body doesn't respond to exercise as quickly and I no longer have naturally hard abs anymore. But that's supposedly part of the "after 35" symptom of aging - that I now have to work at being in shape. UGH! But I do occasionally still get carded and the positive comments, like "wow, you're 39, I would've never guessed," so that's refreshing. I do love the idea of turning 40 because most of my friends are now 40+ and every one tells me it only gets better. It did hit me the other day - I better stay in shape and healthy because I need to have another 40+ years of a good/blessed life.
I read a quote a while ago that said, "the more we resist change, the harder it will be."Cheers to age, wisdom, and only getting better.
Thank you so much for your
Thank you so much for your words, they are a breath of fresh air!
Summer Brighton
The Visionnaire Companies