Am I A Quitter?

Posted April 17th, 2008

janesmith member for 38 weeks 2 days Send a message

This is the third day of our cold war. The longest we ever had and I am thinking of all kinds of things...I will not talk to him because I have already tried nicely and yes I have yelled too so it is his turn.

I also have my plan b set just in case...but I am thinking, am I a quitter that I always think of plan b? I have been hurt too many times in my life that I have this natural instinct to save/protect myself...

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Dolly Tatume says:

Welcome to America my friend !

Posted April 17th, 2008

Where do you live ? I live on the border of Los Angeles/Orange County. That is about 15 miles from Knotts Berry Farm one way and 15 miles from Disneyland the other way.

Debra Waibel
Shattered Girlz
Dolly Tatume ( Taa-too-me )

Dolly Tatume says:

Hmmm sorry the post above seemed to post in the wrong place !

Posted April 18th, 2008

The first post I did above I actually meant to put under another blog of yours that said you were new to America.So to respond to this one correctly let me say what I think. A Plan B is fine and perfectly normal, we all have thoughts we may or may not act on. My best advice and one I am trying to follow as well from being very hurt in the past is not to let that baggage effect your descions now. I dont want to become bitter or scared to love again because I have been hurt in the past. I want to risk it again and hope for better.

Debra Waibel
Shattered Girlz
Dolly Tatume ( Taa-too-me )

janesmith says:

thanks

Posted April 18th, 2008

I am going to take my time this time...and I will be fine I am very tough woman.

I am from Sacramento =)

-Jane-
otherwise happy

Freda Mooncotch says:

Only you can answer that

Posted April 17th, 2008

Only you can answer that question Jane. Try reading this article in Psychology Today and sit on it for a while. See how you feel after a few days. Never make any decisions when you are getting ready to have your period, are in a bad mood, at the bottom of your wave or angry. You will more than likely make a bad decision only to regret it later.

http://psychologytoday.com/articles/pto-20080225-0...

This article was very enlightening. Maybe it will help.

maddie says:

Knowing when to walk away...

Posted April 18th, 2008

We AlphaWomen have only had a few glimpses into your relationship, so I can't pretend to know the whole story, nor would I ever want to pass judgement on someone else's relationship (provided it's not overtly abusive, of course), but I know from experience that having the strength and courage to know when to walk away is one of the most powerful gifts a woman can give herself.

It may seem self-evident, but it's really a revelation: we do not have to put up with everything. There are people out there who'll want and love us just as we are. Sometimes all it takes is opening ourselves up a little to the possibility of finding one.

Again, I want to reiterate I'm not coming down on one side or the other, in this situation, because as Freda pointed out, you are the only one who has all the information to make that call. But no matter what you decide, know that you're going to be okay.

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Maddie