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I stumbled across this link to an article in Oprah magazine. It really hit home with me. I have a sixteen year old daughter who I quite often remind she should not feel pressured to marry or have children. For some reason this article struck a cord with me. I find many similarities to this woman and my life. I would like to hear your thoughts.
http://www.cnn.com/2008/LIVING/personal/08/26/o.di...
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Login or register to post a commentThis article is brilliant.
This article is brilliant. This coming from a happily married woman! When you give yourself the room to complain and admit that all isn't fabulously perfect all the time with husbands and children, the more fantastic they seem when you turn back around to hug them.
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You are so right. I think
You are so right. I think marriage would have a much better success rate if we were taught to use it as a condiment rather than a main course. Don't expect it to fill you up it just spices up your life. The best thing we can do for our daughters is teach them to be happy alone. Then if a guy comes along who makes her happy its a bonus! Our society is still teaching them you need a man to be happy and dammit you don't. My marriage got exponetially better after I made that switch in my thinking.
Oh yes, I know it well
I was born and raised Mormon and was taught my whole life that my purpose was to get married as soon as possible and immediately start having kids. So I did just that, and lo and behold, I was shocked when I was absolutely miserable. I was fortunately able to make the changes that I needed to be ME without the constraints of a religion or social pressures, so I'm definitely the extreme case of this article. But thank you for posting it, I think it's something that a lot of us resonate with.
Summer Brighton
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I read that in "O" as well..
and the article fascinated me. One of the most honest pieces I've ever read in a magazine. I think it's a reminder that no matter how good your marriage is, you have to maintain your sense of self. You can't expect the marriage to be everything for you OR your husband. But you have to find out what your marriage is to you and not only accept it, but celebrate it.
"Dream as if you'll live forever, live as if you'll die today."
-- James Dean