member for 20 weeks 1 day
Well , i did it, i finally took some advice given to me and told the "other guy" to chill. We are friends and until i figure my life out, this can't go on. Email or call cause you care or want to check on me and if my husband is being mean in front of you to me stand up for me instead of walking away. And that was four days ago. I get a daily email to see how i am and he still says im beautiful but nothing more.
Still looking for a counselor to see, they are expensive and hiding that kind of outgoing cash would be tough. I tried to talk to him about letting me go and that was a huge fight and a big hell no. I am picking my battles just to keep gaining my strenght. He suggested i go to my bishop but that i did not feel was a good idea. That has backfired HUGE before.
I have been getting up and walking each morning alone. He thinks i am going with a friend of his wife, but i felt i needed that time and i will deal with the repurscussions of going alone at a later date if it comes up.
For now i am just trying to ignore the hurtful comments and work through them or at least not let them get to me as much.
My oldest daughter gave me text message the other day,
"there comes a point in your life when you realize who really matters, who never did and who never will, thanks for being someone who does."
this simple text has made me feel a lot better about life.
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Login or register to post a commentGood for you!! Keep it up...
Good for you!! Keep it up... it will be tough but just take it one step at a time!
Good for you! Your strength
Good for you! Your strength will speak volumes to your children! There are many free clinics and hotlines that you can turn to as well.
You can get referrals and moral support from these amazing networks that can help you through the baby steps of untangling yourself from the abuse.
Whether or not he's actually hit you, verbal abuse is just as damaging and you do not deserve that treatment.
This is the link for the National Domestic Violence Hotline:
www.ndvh.org
And here is an excerpt from their site:
"At the National Domestic Violence Hotline… We believe that every caller deserves to be treated with dignity and respect. We believe that every family deserves to live in a world free from violence. We believe that safe homes and safe families are the foundation of a safe society.
Until the violence stops, the hotline will continue to answer…One Call at a Time. Help is available to callers 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. Hotline advocates are available for victims and anyone calling on their behalf to provide crisis intervention, safety planning, information and referrals to agencies in all 50 states, Puerto Rico and the U.S. Virgin Islands. Assistance is available in English and Spanish with access to more than 170 languages through interpreter services. If you or someone you know is frightened about something in your relationship, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or TTY 1-800-787-3224."
The services are there when you reach out... stay strong.
Rachael
"Love Well. Love Wisely."
www.JustInCaseInc.com