You need to take care of yourself. My parents' divorce could have happened much sooner and happier if they didn't allow their feelings to fester. Your son's respect for you will increase when you do what's right for you--and it will be right for him because you (and your husband) will be happy. He will understand that love and affection can be honest, but only when you realize that for yourself.

Please don't misunderstand: I'm not saying divorce is the right answer for you; I want you to think logically instead of emotionally and find what's right for you. I wish you all the best in this.

Meghanne
Contributing Writer

I agree with Meghanne..what you are feeling inside has a way of manifesting on the outside. I too am a child of divorce and my parents separation happened when I was about 10/11 years old.

I was very close to my father and the separation was truly heartbreaking for me. Then again, my mother went about it the whole wrong way and she had her own little side life going along and she wanted a divorce. My father wanted his family. It was very hard to accept that I could have one parent who could be so selfless toward us, and another parent who was completely selfish.

For years my parents argued and fought, sometimes even physically and for those reasons, I was glad they separated. I hated their fights and moreso, I hated the embarrassment and the idea of "other people" knowing that "something" was wrong in our household. I went to Catholic School too and it was an inner shame I felt that my parents didn't live together. As a matter of fact, I used to lie about it until I was about 15 or 16.

Divorce is more common these days and living between two parents is more accepted. Just think about your complete circumstance very carefully especially where and how you are going to live and take care of him, and yourself. Think about how altering his stability will affect him. I don't know if he is aware that you & his father are going through something, but very likely to him, his life is perfect. At that age, children are very vulnerable and separation/divorce can be devastating and open up new wounds. But you know your son, best and what he might be able to handle.

I think, it will probably be harder to accept, if to your son, your husband is doing everything right and you're the one who appears unhappy. This can potentially alter the way he thinks of you.

I'm sorry - I know none of this is easy to hear. But, as a child of divorce whose mother went about things the complete wrong way, I suggest your explore all options before making any drastic moves.

Have you considered marriage counseling with your husband? Is there a medical reason for his moodiness or could it be that he is just reacting to what you're feeling and not saying? Counseling can be a great way to discuss things even if it doesn't necessarily lead to the end you might be hoping for.

Good luck with your decision and all i can say is pray for guidance that you make the best possible decision for all involved.

xoxo Anje
"I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle, but if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best"
Marilyn Monroe