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A Mother's Day Dilemma: What to say to that "Mother" of a mom.
Posted May 7th, 2008
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Login or register to post a commentWow, what a great post. I
Wow, what a great post. I know that there are many many people who struggle with both mothers day and fathers day. Let's face it, pretty much the entire human race is dysfunctional, yes I know there are some people who were lucky enough to have Joan Clever as a mother but I don't know to many!
This was one of the most honest posts I have read to date. I applaud you on broaching the subject and bringing such truth to something that might be difficult for many people.
I love how you say to get to know your mother and walk in her shoes. I can't tell you how many times I have sat and listened to both of my parents and their stories and felt so ashamed at how many times I held them in contempt for "failing" me when they to were just on their own journey trying to make sense of it all. It wasn't until I got older and actually cared enough to learn who they were and listen to their stories.
As a result, they have great stories filled with so much pain, life, love, experiences and memories. They are wise and able to give advice to so many people because they have been there, done that. So many people can relate to them because they are down to earth.
I wouldn't change my folks for anything, but it took a lot of years of just hanging with them and asking a lot of questions to get to this point. We have to remember, our parents had their own dreams, their own desires, their own heartaches and their own faults.
Not everyone is meant to be a mom. It is a tough job even for the strongest woman. I admire women who admit that they are not up for the task because at least they don't glamorize being a parent and bring another unwanted child into the world who will suffer abuse at their hand.
Thanks for posting! LOVE THE TIPS. Very funny.
Understanding the struggle
Hi Beautymark
It was a great point you brought up. Thanks! Being a down to earth woman, most of the time special occassion cards are hard to find for me.So hard to express your real feelings in a card.Especially in my husband's birthday, because I need to get a birthday card, and a Christmas card for the same date for him.Top of those exchanging cards is not a tradition in Europe, so I had no idea that I need to send Thank You cards after our wedding either.
Nowadays I am learning:
Just an original idea to your mother: Make your own card, foldable one and place your youngest(baby) picture to the left inner page, and most recent one to the right inner. Use multiple dots between the pics.to connect them,and say fill in the blank to the top of the page, and ask her to send back to you the same card on your birthday or right after mothers day, by filling the blank.You can even add a stamped return enveloppe.Can color or just leave it white the cover and back cover pages.
Too complicated? Someone may give a try who knows
Wonderful day!
Roz
LOVE it!!!
I wish I would have had your idea a couple of days ago! It's brilliant! I'm definitely going to use it.
Thanks for sharing!
Danielle
Yeah, what you said.
Yes, I believe you and I could be sisters; or at least we have the same "type" of mothers. Oy, I think I've just skipped mother's day in the past. Maybe this year I should at least send her a text message. Oh ok, I'll go out and try to find a card and send it to her. Now I'm off to see if I can find her mailing address.
c.a. Marks
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This was a great post! I
This was a great post! I have a couple of friends whose moms did go away and join the circus! It was really hard for them when they were growing up. Caused a lot of emotional damage to them. But they are very successful now, have their own kids and are very involved.
Thanks for your post.