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HERE IS WHAT OPRAH WINFREY HAD TO SAY ABOUT MEN:
* If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
* If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
* Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour.
* Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
* Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.
* Slower is better.
* Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy..
* If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't 'be friends'. A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
* If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is
* Don't stay because you think 'it will get better'. You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
* The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
* Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
* Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
* Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
* Never let a man know everything - He will use it against you later.
* You cannot change a man's behaviour - Change comes from within.
* Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job.
* Do not make him into a quasi-god - He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
* Never let a man define who you are.
* Never borrow someone else's man - If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
* A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
* All men are NOT dogs.
* You should not be the one doing all the bending... Compromise is two way street.
* You need time to heal between relationships...
* There is nothing cute about baggage...
* Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
* You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...
* A relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals... Look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
* Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
* Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted
* Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man.
* Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need - Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
* Scared of being alone is what makes a lot of women stay in relationships that are abusive or hurtful: Dr. Phill
* You should know that you're the best thing that could ever happen to anyone and if a man mistreats you, he'll miss out on a good thing. If he was attracted to you in the 1st place, just know that he's not the only one. They're all watching you, so you have a lot of choices. Make the right one.
* Ladies take care of your own hearts....
* Share this with other women and men (just so they know)... You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare. They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.
What do you all think?? I could not agree more!!
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Login or register to post a commentAll I have to say is...
All I have to say is... THANK YOU FOR POSTING... I needed to read something like this so much!
So did I
When I first read it I had the exact same thought - I am going through some stuff now and needed to see a lot of those points on black and white. I am glad it has touched someone else too!
Baby Daddy!
I love the comment about men with tons of baby momma's. It's true. I have a friend who I adore completely and I probably would have considered dating but 4 kids with 4 women, 2 kids who were born within 1 month of each other by different women, not married nor engaged to any of them (he said he wanted to marry baby momma #2 but she said "no"; who wouldn't after he had her knocked up and another woman at the same time)!!
xoxo Anje
"I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle, but if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best" -
Marilyn Monroe
Good stuff. All of it. "I
Good stuff.
All of it.
"I paint my own reality." -Frida Kahlo
If I could drink, I would
If I could drink, I would have a drink to that. I love it!
I dislike chain emails. I
I dislike chain emails. I don't watch Opera much. But really when was the last time Oprah dated a man? I am just curious? Dr. Phil........huh......can't stand the guy and his advice is really distasteful. Sorry but that is just the way I feel. I can't get excited about this post or jump up and down. It sounds so cliche.
Freda
Founder
www.AlphaWomen.com
"Those Who Say It Can't Be Done Need To Get Out Of The Way Of Those Who Are Doing It!"
I have to agree.
I'm not a fan of chain emails either. And even if this list came from Oprah's desk (which I highly doubt), sometimes her vantage point leaves me lacking. Don't get me wrong, I love Oprah and admire the work she's done, but sometimes she speaks from a place that's not necessarily where I live -- like she's not in touch with the average woman's everyday life.
Yeah, when was the last time she dated?
lvshudiva
"There is no strong performance without a little fanaticism in the performer." - Ralph Waldo Emerson
Great Comment! LOVE IT, LOVE
Great Comment! LOVE IT, LOVE IT, LOVE IT! Thanks for speaking out.
Great Post!
XOXO,
Freda
Founder
www.AlphaWomen.com
"Those Who Say It Can't Be Done Need To Get Out Of The Way Of Those Who Are Doing It!"
I don't think it's about
I don't think it's about this list coming from Oprah's personal desk, and I really don't care if she has a man or not... All I know is that most of the things on this list are things we don't always take in consideration when our hearts are numbed by the force of love, and that they can hurt if we are stubborn and ignore them. I don't like chain letters either, but if something is good enough why not share it? Wise advise is always appreciated...
Oprah list.
Those are her view points. I think most of them are common sense. All she saying is to be smart and listen to your instincts. She is so right about men spreading there genenic genes around, and having babies by more than one lady. To me it shows how he can not commit to a person, and how does that look to his children. It doesn't set the right example to procreate all over the place. I know because I am a single mother, and my son father has relationship after relationship, kids by all the women he has been involved with... Enough said about that!
All Oprah's points are her points, and I agree with most of them. I think after 22 years of interviews, she has seen and heard it all. Yea she never been married, neither has Goldie, but they are in a happy committed relationships. You can be with a Man, be committed to him without giving up yourself. It works both ways in my opinion, you have to be good to him and he has to be there for you. I was married myself and now I am S.A.D.(Single and Divorced). I am happy, and if I do meet that man who rocks my world, I am going to rock his world right back.
What Oprah Winfrey had to say about men-comment
I got where she was coming from, and by and large I agree. However, like Cheryl commented, she made a lot of generalizations that don't necessarily apply to all women or all men.
The man in my life today came to me after a long journey learning about myself, who I am and what it is I want out of life. We have spent a great deal of time getting to know one another, and I feel very secure in making the lifelong commitment to be his wife and to have him as my husband. We have helped one another "unpack our baggage", and will continue to do so for as long as we live. For us, it is called love.
"The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step".
Peace and blessings,
Karimah