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My Ex-husband used to prance our our house naked after I left for work in the morning wearing only women's black patent leather heels, size 11, pop in a porno video, and jack off while watching it. I'm SO glad he divorced me!
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How the hell did you find out? OMG were you horrified?
He'd been acting strange for
He'd been acting strange for a month or so, so one day before he got home from work, I started looking through his bedroom (we slept in separate rooms). One day, I found condoms in a dresser drawer (we hadn't had sex in 6 years by that time); the next day I found the high heels tucked in his Miller Beer can slippers under his bed. A few weeks later, I eventually asked him about it and he told me the whole story. The fun part (and I say that quite facetiously) is that I found the high heels @ 4:30 p.m. and we had dinner reservations at 6:00 p.m. (90 minutes later) to celebrate our 8th wedding anniversary!
I was so stunned I couldn't even think straight. Don't ask me how I got through dinner. I was so repulsed for years, realizing that I was married to a cross-dresser. Now it all made sense why he liked dressing up as a woman on Halloween.
I tried to get him to get help in therapy but he didn't think anything was wrong.
I am so very glad we eventually divorced. I'm just worried about his next wife and what she'll have to go through!
That had to be absolutely
That had to be absolutely traumatic. How did you go without sex for six years? Crikey! I wouldn't have lasted six months.
How long after did you get divorced? Is he planning on getting married again? Heavens to Betsy I couldn't even begin to imagine what that hell is going to be like for her!
Are you dating?
Yeah, I wasn't crazy about
Yeah, I wasn't crazy about the no sex thing, but I really didn't want to have it with him and I didn't want to cheat. Thank God for battery operated devices!! We got divorced about 5 years after that. We probably would have gotten divorced sooner but we had some financial issues we had to deal with.
He is planning on getting married again. When we first got married, we decided we didn't want kids . Somewhere along the line, though, he changed his mind. He never told me, though. Even if he had, I didn't want a family with him. Now I thank God I didn't.
So now he is out there, just a couple months shy of 45, trying to find a woman who will marry him and give him children. He said that marrying a woman with children isn't good enough; he wants to have his bloodline continued. Yeah, like THAT's anything special. So, he wants to be a father, but not necessarily a daddy.
I really do feel sorry for her.
Wow, I didn't know guys
Wow, I didn't know guys thought like that. That is nice to know. Ouch. I feel sorry for her too. Aren't you so glad that you are out and not going to be "that girl."
Geese, that is such an awful story. My heart goes out to you. You really don't know what you are getting especially in the beginning when our eyes are so filled with lust and attraction. We so over look everything.
As Gail Sheehy would say, "Consider it a 'false start'". Thank God that you have enough time to have a few more starts!!
No, I'm not dating. I'm in
No, I'm not dating. I'm in for repairs, as I put it.
I gained over 100 pounds during our marriage, and I was pretty chunky to start out!! LOL I topped the scales at 300#, but have gotten down to 275 through my new fitness program.
I am also "off the market" until I get my head back on straight and my self-esteem back where it should be. Then -- look out world!! LOL
I have a wonderful friend who is married, but has an understanding with his wife that they can fool around a little bit, but it won't distract from their marriage. It's kind of like going to a wedding and asking another woman to dance. You may have a nice time on the dance floor, but you're still going home with the person you came with. We met in Chicago a few weeks ago to get reacquainted (we hadn't seen each other in years) and to get our jollies knocked off. It was SUCH a blast. We're planning on meeting again sometime later this year.
Also, I am madly in love with an old friend from high school. Unfortunately, he and his wife don't have the same sort of open marriage. We've tried having a fling a couple times, but it is just too stressful for him with everything else he has going on in his life -- work, 2 kids, wife (who acts like a roommate and hasn't had sex with him in over 6 years) -- to keep up our relationship yet act as if nothing is going on.
He thinks that he and the wife may get divorced when the younger one leaves for college, but that won't be until August/Sept 2009. I've asked him before if he even wants a divorce and he has said "yes and no." Then I've asked him if he doesn't want a divorce because he doesn't want to go through the hassle of a divorce or if he doesn't want to end things w/ the wife. "Both" was his answer.
I told him that divorces can be pretty easy going and inexpensive if both people want to end things and you can be friendly enough with deciding who gets what and who is paying for what. My divorce cost us all of $600.
So we may wind up together in the long run or may not. Either way, I'm working on getting myself in shape physically and mentally and working on becoming the best me that I can be.
You have any advice on what I should do? I'd love to get an impartial point of view.