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I can't for the life of me figure out what is wrong with the men out there. Here I am a educated, successful, attractive (and not to mention sexy) women, and the men I meet are treating me like some idiot. The one thing I have come to realize is that it isn't me, it is definately them. I have dated alot in the the last year since my divorce and all I have to say is were these guys raised by cave women. What happen to manners, and I am talking the open the door, please and thank you kind, I'm talking the when you say your going to do something you follow through with it, kind of manners. When you tell me you are going to call me tomorrow call, I don't care if it is to tell me you don't want to see me again, call. What kind of business men can these people be if they can't follow through with small details. If you say you are going to be at my apartment at 8:00 pm and you are running late, call damn it, just call. I am not going to go off the deep in and rant and rave because your running late, and you don't have to make it up to me. JUST CALL !!! If you say you are going to do something just do it, or don't tell me you are going to do it. How hard is it? Do I expect you to love me forever, hell no, I just expect manners. What happen to good breeding, were these men raised by idiots. I have noticed more and more that manners are getting to be a thing of the past. Am I old fashioned, maybe, but, good manners are never ever out of style. If I go to the trouble to fix cocktails and appetizers at my apartment before we go out, the very least you could do is say thank-you, and believe you me if I go to the trouble of cooking for someone even if it is just cocktails and appetizers you better appreciate it. Just say thanks. Use your brain, what are you afraid of that if you say thanks, or follow through with a phone call, that I will want to be your life partner, I don't think so. What do the rest of you think about this? jc
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Login or register to post a commentYou have to date a lot of
You have to date a lot of frogs before you meet a good guy. There are a lot to weed through. It can be completely disheartening many times. Everything is changing so fast. I don't think it is the way their mothers raised them, I think it is the times that we are living in, the television programs they are watching and the other women they have dated.
A very good friend of mine said to me, "Freda, YOU teach people how to treat you!"
I have never fogotten that saying. Move on, and keep moving on. The guy who respects you and can tolerate you will not be afraid of you.
That is just my two cents.
Oh, I totally agree
Is it a tough guy thing, a game they are playing? Maybe other women have tolerated this behavior, so therefore, they have not been challenged to behave better. I will not accept that these men were not raised to know better because I believe they do. Maybe they feel they are doomed to fail, so they don't try or feel they are worth better anyway. I am finding this to be consistent with successful men as well. I am finding the older I get, the more I have to offer or the wiser I am, it gets tougher.
I was single for almost 16
I was single for almost 16 years. I just recently have met a very nice guy who is quite a gentleman and very respectable. It took me 16 1/2 years to find him. My girlfriend thought we would be a good fit and she was right.
I dated quite a few jerks. I must admit though that I probably wasn't ready for this guy and he came at just the right time. It is tough out there and just got to keep waiting.
I read all of your stories here and can completely relate to everyone of them. Make yourself open to see what you are attracted to and what you are attracting, you might be surprised at what you discover in yourself.
It is tough out there, but stay positive and keep the focus of "your cup is half full instead of half empty." You will meet the right person when you are ready for him.
Maybe they're modern
A lot of guys went through college getting flak for opening doors, etc., constantly hearing how they should discard any sexist customs from the past. Don't blame them - they're just trying to be up to date.
Maybe older men will have the sense of chivalry you're looking for.
I do not know!!!
I totally agree I have been going through the same exact thing. Some of these men I guess do not think that most women want and deserve respect. They are not accomplishing anything by not telling the truth, we could care less if you're late....or that you're not gonna call just be a man and mean what you say and say what you mean!!!!!
I have endured two
I have endured two relationships with controlling, abusive guys and went on dates with some creeps that were rude, obnoxious and talked down to me for being a woman. Though they were negative experiences and had affected me in the past. From it I have learned to be a stronger, more determined person. Those guys devalued me and I allowed it because I let them. I let thier actions and words affect me, and the outcome of those times in my life.It made me realize that life is our perceptions of what is happening , of the people we encounter on a daily basis. Then our actions are determined by our thoughts and what we take from a certain situation.I guess I will sum it up by saying thank you to the guys that did not respect me and had mistreated me. They have helped me become a more viable, valuable member of society and made me realize I deserve respect and that I will not settle for being treated less because of my gender.